Spotting these people is tough because they seem so genuine and enthusiastic. They express assumptions about the depth of your relationship with them long before it’s appropriate.When your goal is to make a clean break from the person who won’t let go (or any prospect, for that matter), never argue or defend yourself.Reporting abuse to the site is far more effective than just blocking a person’s messages (a feature offered on most sites).However, if you’re a drama king or queen, don’t practice your art of “the sky is falling.” If you fabricate e-mails and try to damage someone’s reputation, you’ll run foul of several civil and criminal laws — maybe even antiterrorism federal law.On some sites, the person also knows that you deleted it.
Realize that many people forget how little time they actually have invested in their exchanges and that they don’t have a good perspective on their circumstances.You need to know how to dish out rejection in an appropriate way.As with real life, you must do it quickly — and with a modicum of kindness, if possible.The Internet-appropriate action to take is to simply say“I need to stop now. If it’s an argument telling you why you are a match, simply sign off. Regarding the third action, no stranger is worth any emotional investment on your part, especially negative ones. If someone has really incensed you, avoid further trouble even though you’re anonymous. They are unlikely to go postal on you, but some people are sufficiently sick to do some serious libel and slander.I’ve enjoyed chatting with you, but I don’t think we’re a match. Some people flame others by sending e-mails, warning people of a person’s supposed bad character. He is [insert issue here].”) Although you could sue them for defamation, who needs the grief?The appropriate actions to take include Occasionally, you’ll run into people who just won’t stop contacting you even after you’ve rejected them.