I was co-hosting a company-sponsored discussion last fall, open to the public, about coping with divorce. The whole affair was online."The man added that his marriage had ended partly because of it — but still, he needed clarification about whether that Internet relationship constituted infidelity. Several people in the audience nodded "yes," followed by a response from our expert on hand, therapist and author Ross Rosenberg, who specializes in treating sex addiction."Cheating is when you are verbally, emotionally or physically intimate with somebody other than your spouse or partner," said Rosenberg, author of "The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us" (PESI Publishing and Media).
A member of the audience shared with the group that he had discovered his wife was involved in a cyber affair."Is that considered cheating? "This can become an affair when there is a relationship ...
where two people are getting their needs met outside of their marriage or relationship."Such an affair may involve virtual sex, yes — but not necessarily.
An emotional betrayal can be even more damaging to a marriage than a physical one, said marriage counselor M.
"Finding out your spouse has cheated is traumatic, and trauma kind of lingers," Rosenberg said."None of us has time to manage our texts and emails, so if I'm finding the time to manage this, there's something typically going wrong."Denial: "If you say, 'You're on your computer a lot,' and they emphatically deny it, that's a sign there could be guilt," he said, "because if they aren't doing something inappropriate they won't really protest."Coping with the problem Is it possible to rebuild a partnership once the trust has been broken?Therapy is usually needed to address the problem and its fallout.Seuls les membres premium peuvent voir les webcams des autres membres.Pour devenir un membre premium (GOLD) à vie et disposer de cette option, il vous suffit d'ajouter une fois des jetons ! The experts shared tips for coping with a cyber affair or flirtation, whether you're the culprit or the victim — and obviously, this advice has relevance for anyone dealing with infidelity of any kind: For the victim: Have compassion for yourself, said relationship expert Stacey Martino (loveandpassioncoach.com).