“You’re less likely to date a younger guy who’s been divorced, has children or has sexual performance issues.” In 2011, she met Juan Cabrera, now 34, at one of her mixers and soon fell in love. “Millennial men are career-focused and want to travel with successful women and conquer the world together,” says Soletti, who notes she’s seen an uptick in established women signing up specifically to meet younger bucks at her speed-dating events.Such May-December couplings are no longer seen as relationship outliers — or indicative of deep-seated mommy issues.I lived that feeling as the token black girl in my West Texas hometown’s elite circles. I am a woman who grew up with a “Love is Colorblind” figurine in her room, for goodness sake!The fear of feeling that way within a relationship also blinded me to possibility. When it comes to life experiences and interests, I likely have more in common with white men than black.When it came to finding love in New York, Amber Soletti, a 42-year-old who lives in the West Village, had no luck dating older guys or men her own age.
Will my “ Richard Tanne’s film “Southside with You” tells the story of Barack and Michelle Obama’s first date.Black men are my preference, followed closely by other people of the sun.But if I meet a white man who reminds me of my father, who genuinely believes Black Lives Matter, too — and knows the words to “Shakedown Street” — I’m open. READ MORE: I want a lover, not a boyfriend Done right, benefits can make a friendship stronger I’m a black woman who doesn’t date black men. “Everybody thought this was a little phase, that I was just having a crisis.” But friends and family came around to accepting the couple after they’d been dating for a year and it became clear that Sutherland had serious intentions.In April 2010, they had an intimate beachside wedding in Hawaii, and they now have a 6-year-old son, Marek.They were introduced by Sutherland’s sister, who was one of Wipp’s law school classmates, at a beachside barbecue.