Most are well intended and contain a nugget of truth. Dating is hard enough without sifting through all this erroneous information, so let's debunk some myths.
There are plenty of them, but let's focus on what I believe are the top five myths that make dating harder for Christian men.
As my friend Lindsey, married and in her thirties, recently remarked, “I’m sure glad I wasn’t much of a Christian when I started dating my husband!
” Whether over coffee in my kitchen or on the hallowed ground of women’s small groups, I hear these murmurs constantly.
When we were still in college, my husband had 38 first job interviews before he landed a second one.
He was horrible at interviews, but by the 38th one, he had learned how to engage with good questions, talk about himself an appropriate amount and gauge interest from himself and the interviewer.
But you can start somewhere—slowly, and casually—and trust God to lead you into more.I can’t say it clearly enough: Hanging out in groups will not be enough information to determine who is worth marrying.Everyone is different when you get them one-on-one.NICOLE UNICE Nicole Unice is the author of ÒBrave Enough: Getting Over our Fears, Flaws and Failures to Live Bold and Free.Ó (Tyndale, 2015) and travels frequently enough to almost feel like she can fly.There are some myths out there that people assume to be gospel about dating.He didn’t get necessarily smarter–he got more experienced. Sometimes we all need a little practice with figuring out what we really want–not in terms of our “ideal spouse” but a real flesh-and-blood human.