That life gets in the way in the form of kids, mortgages, work, and in-laws should not dictate leaving the excitement behind.It can be revived by taking time—regularly—for just the two of you to be romantic.I've only been in this situation once and it ended-up in allot of emotional pain for me.I went for exactly the woman I wanted and basically followed her around and did lots of stuff for her. So my question is this; does it ever work and is it ever truly "safe" or is it just a convenience for one party to get the other to do stuff for them?
I have dated women whome I was friends with, and I have quit being friends with women wo I felt were playing me with the "FRIENDS FIRST " let down. As for using people, I've never allowed anyone to do stuff for me without my doing at least as much in return - in or out of a relationship. The difference between men & women and being friends first is (I know I'm about to generalize big time)...
I always start with friendship but 99% of the time I end up feeling something for the person that they do not feel for me and I am forced to either be their friend and forget those feelings or move on without them in my life. But then again jumping right in the sack with someone doesn't seem to work either. Lets say a guy is at a party, a girl walks in, he looks up and thinks nothing of her.
He gets to know her over time because of mutual friends, he finds out she is really cool and they become friends, he will NEVER fall in love with her because that instant attraction wasn't there. Lets say a girl is at a party, a guy walks in, she looks up and thinks nothing of him.
Researchers have demonstrated that that heart-pounding feeling of being in love is driven by norepinephrine, which is chemically related to adrenaline.
Researchers have pinned down the chemicals that flow in our brains and bodies when we have that rush of romantic excitement. A psychologist in York, England, had subjects who were complete strangers follow this protocol: They told each other intimate details of their lives for half an hour and then were directed to stare into each other’s eyes for another four minutes without speaking.