Do you want to keep wasting your time being unsure about whether you have REAL chemistry with this chick?Do you want to live in a state of uncertainty, or do you want to live your life?One day about five years ago, I was talking with my best friend Tobi* about our dating lives."Are you excited for your second date with that guy Sam* tonight? We were both pre-gaming before our respective dates later that evening."I think so, but he wasn't the best kisser. I was terrified, but not terrified enough to turn down a date with this sexy creative director I met on Tinder. Instead of spending the entire time sipping on wine, wondering whether I had chemistry with this creature or not, I knew instantly how I felt about her. ""I can't really tell if I like Zoe to be honest." I grabbed the bottle of sauvignon blanc from the center of the coffee table and filled both of our wine glasses to the tippy top.I’ve done both and discovered that while I don’t need to date someone who’s also sober and can handle a partner who enjoys a drink, dates who get blasted over and over again are certainly not for me.Decide ahead of time how much you want to give away.
Or if you’re totally vibing with the person and want to reveal your alcohol free lifestyle, go for it … The magic concoction that got me through the early stages of my new life was a little drink called bitters and Coke. Let your date know your best time zone, give them some options, and don’t be afraid to suggest earlier times if your alcohol free lifestyle has your schedule shifting.
When I first quit drinking, I was still a little embarrassed to tell people I didn’t drink.
In a dimly lit bar with an attractive man, I’d feel silly saying, “Oh this?
Bitters has an orange flavor to it, most people do not know what it is, a lot of my dates just assumed it was a type of alcohol, and bartenders would never charge me much for it. A big part of dating alcohol free is remembering that you are a ROCK STAR for choosing to live the way you want to live in the face of social pressures.
The truth is, it has a teeeeny bit of alcohol in, it but not enough to cause any sort of difference in your BAC. You are making a choice that goes against the grain and yes, many people will be confused.