If I tell a joke to a girl and she laughs, does that mean I’ve messed with her emotional chastity by inadvertently flirting?
Oh no, he sneezed and I said ‘God bless you’ – I hope he doesn’t think I have a crush on him! Be friends with your friends and pursue the women you want to date (one at a time, of course).
Dating is an awesome, terrible, challenging, great, heartbreaking institution. It can leave you floating on air or crashing back to earth.
The Situation: Things seem to be going pretty well – and then all of a sudden it ends with one line: “It’s not you, it’s God.” Sometimes, well-intentioned Catholics will use God to get out of a relationship they don’t want to be in anymore. Those are both decisions that we made for ourselves, but they sound way better if God told us to do it.
The guilt, jealousy, and sexual ghosts from unchaste sexual encounters can seriously impact the way we see ourselves, the opposite sex, and sex itself.
There are plenty of regrets that come from not living chastity – but I’ve never met anyone who has regretted choosing virtue.
So it’s important to remember that what we do with our bodies (the way we dress, talk, joke around, date, kiss, etc.) impacts our souls.Break-ups are always tough, but they’re even harder when the person you’ve been dating tells you that they’re ending things because God told them to. Someone once ended things with me by saying, “It’s what God wants” – and I can 100% say I’m glad that didn’t work out, but I wish she wouldn’t have played the God card.I would have preferred that she just tell me how she was feeling.We’ve all been told to guard our hearts – so does that mean we can’t even interact with the opposite sex? If you make it to the elusive dating phase, be aware of your emotions and planning for the future.Making her laugh and being there for her when she cries is good, but don’t think for a second you’re the only one for that job.Anything less than chastity is settling – and you were made for more, so please don’t settle for less. We’re not good at this whole being-upfront-about-feelings things, because we’ve grown up in a world where whoever cares the least wins.