This friendship-first approach has fundamentally changed my understanding of dating and relationships.Observe what happened next…A year after meeting Jessica, I needed to travel to a new city for work and I realized that I had no place to stay there.There’s a reason why some of the most popular and effective dating apps today rely heavily upon your mutual friends.
She quickly connected us via Facebook, where her friend and I immediately hit it off and subsequently spent the whole weekend together.
Complaining about being “friendzoned” is incredibly harmful to our relationships and can cripple our capacity for both healthy friendships and healthy relationships.
The friendship-first approach is not an isolated theory. Our existing friends have always been our best source of referrals.
Using these insights, we both began introducing each other to awesome people within our respective friend groups, and have been doing so for years.
The friendship-first approach centers around sharing fun and memorable experiences with the people we meet, and seeking to learn their stories and their preferences, free of any overtly sexual or romantic expectations.